New years resolutions are something I love to set. Yet I always fall short as the year moves forward.
I have found that, for me, putting my desires for improvement and the wants for new into my Bucket List helps me far grater than resolving for a new year.
For the past few years I have welcomed in the new year with a word. I was introduced to this concept by a dear friend. Choosing a word that will represent what you want out of the new year. A reminder of your goals. I think the process of determining a best word to fit the new year is a wonderful challenge. And you will know you have the right word when it feels as though it fits!
As my friend asked "What is your one little word for 2012?" on FB, I enjoyed reading some of the responses... simplify, love, do, improve, faith, hope, commitment. In the past I have chosen Opportunity and Possibility.
(I learned a long time ago, not to be asking anything of God that may come back as a harsh learning lesson. So I will steer clear of anything even remotely questionable)
I have been giving my word some in depth thought for well over a week now. And when I hit the right one,
I knew it. I feel good in my word, like the perfect pair of shoes.
My word for 2012 is "MORE"! Not as a selfish desire, but as I want to get more out of everything I do. I want to be more of each thing I take part in, I want to give more, I want to enjoy more.
This is the perfect word for 2012 for me.
I was chatting with a very dear friend in Utah tonight. And she brought up the word for the year. I told her my word and my thoughts on it. We talked about how each word gets to be so spot on to our life at the time. How I went through the year of Opportunity, then the year of Possibility, this year will be the year for More....and perhaps 2013 will be my year for "The Whole Enchilada!!!" ..... can I use a phrase for my word?
Well maybe next year!!!
Saturday, December 31, 2011
Friday, December 30, 2011
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Life's greatest hell
is wondering what might have been
and regretting not seizing onto
every opportunity
that comes your way.
is wondering what might have been
and regretting not seizing onto
every opportunity
that comes your way.
Crown King Arizona
Since I was a little girl I always loved to view the canyon at Sun Set Point. As you stand on the edge of the canyon the mountains seem to go on forever.
Yesterday, Mr Biology took me on an Arizona Adventure. I didn't know our destination when we left, and when he told me, to be honest, I had NO idea where it was or how to get there. He turned off the highway shortly after Bullhead City. The paved road ended about a mile in. The weather was great, cool, not cold. I hadn't been on a dirt road in longer than I could remember. I was surprised that there were lots of others on this dirt road too; four wheeling, dirt toys. As we drove I was struck with the realization that the Arizona desert is so beautiful. Maybe it's because I grew up here, or that I see it all the time, or perhaps its because I long for the green of Kentucky, but I had forgotten that my surroundings are amazing.
There is a stretch of Arizona highway called "Bumblebee High Way", as we drove through the canyon we came upon a really well kept cluster of homes and ranches. The sign that preceded them read: Bumble Bee Arizona, population 19. Who knew??? Not me!
Mr Biology had explained that we would be traveling only about 35 miles in, but that we would be going through all the elevation and terrain changes. The drive was leisurely, the conversation was fun. I loved the view! We drove the length of the canyon, the same canyon I had viewed for years from Sun Set Point!
We crossed one lane bridges, and passed homes that looked far too well kept to literally be out in the middle of no where. Then we drove through a...well I guess you would call it a town, I'm not sure, but there was a bar! We both had a good laugh. Nothing out there....but a bar!
Our dirt road took us back and forth through switch backs. I watched the elevation and terrain change. The temperature began to drop. And as we came around the far side of one of the mountains, there was snow! The road took us into pine trees and chilly wind. The temperature during the days had been in the sixties, so the snow was melting, making the road very muddy! I loved it all!
The little town of Crown King was a gold mining town once upon a time. But as Mr Biology said, the mining must not have been very profitable or the road would have been paved! In the heart of the town, there is a church, a general store, a curio shop and a saloon! So small we actually drove past it! The area is dotted with cabins, and even though it is very rocky, I can see the charm and lure to want to spend time there.
As we headed back down the mountain, I must admit I didn't want to go. I think I would have liked to have stayed in one of those cute little stone cabins. (as long as it had heat) We drove down out of the higher elevation and pulled off into a clearing. We had lunch and chatted about how if pioneering had been left up to us, we would have never made the move. So much frontier, so much to over come, so many huge rocks! I am grateful some one was willing to do it. I am grateful that roads are put in place and kept up. However, driving on those washboard dirt roads was fun yesterday, I don't think I would like it everyday! I truly did loved how everyone that we drove past waved. I guess this wide open space, really is just someones neighborhood. And although I only saw three cows, a rabbit and a few birds, I loved the thought that this is still wild country.
As the view of the highway and the sounds of civilization came into the ear shot, I was very sad to leave.
“He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect for more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.”
―
Bob Marley
―
Bob Marley
Thursday, December 29, 2011
Wednesday, December 28, 2011
Sprinkle
Last night I went to a "Baby Sprinkle"!
(It's a baby shower for the second same sex baby in a family, I was confused in the very beginning but after that I thought it was a wonderful idea! I could have used one of those way back when!)
~I remember when the newborns mommy had been the newborn, and I feel like it was only the other day! And may I just say, of that mommy, she is a wonderful mother, I love that she grew up to be such an amazing woman.
As I held that tiny baby last night, my heart melted. I don't know if it was due to being in the child care business for Far To Long, or the inability to be part of my own Grandbabies lives. But the desire to hold a teeny tiny wasn't in me. They are all cute, and I like to see them, but up until last night I hadn't had a desire to hold a baby in years.
Baby Delainie..... is truly an angel. So sweet, so perfect, so darling. She delighted me, I fell in love.
It's funny how you have lots of little empty spots in your heart. Tiny Miss Delainie filled my heart. She is so Yummy!
(It's a baby shower for the second same sex baby in a family, I was confused in the very beginning but after that I thought it was a wonderful idea! I could have used one of those way back when!)
~I remember when the newborns mommy had been the newborn, and I feel like it was only the other day! And may I just say, of that mommy, she is a wonderful mother, I love that she grew up to be such an amazing woman.
As I held that tiny baby last night, my heart melted. I don't know if it was due to being in the child care business for Far To Long, or the inability to be part of my own Grandbabies lives. But the desire to hold a teeny tiny wasn't in me. They are all cute, and I like to see them, but up until last night I hadn't had a desire to hold a baby in years.
Baby Delainie..... is truly an angel. So sweet, so perfect, so darling. She delighted me, I fell in love.
It's funny how you have lots of little empty spots in your heart. Tiny Miss Delainie filled my heart. She is so Yummy!
Tuesday, December 27, 2011
.....but will never be broken.
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| An Ancient Chinese proverb says “An invisible red thread connects those destined to meet, despite the time, the place, and despite the circumstances. The thread can be tightened or tangle, but will never be broken. |
Monday, December 26, 2011
My Rules To Live By
Recently I was out to lunch with a friend, and as I listened to the things this friend said, I realized that I needed to listen closer. I needed to hear the things that were not being said.
As I listened, I picked up on the emotion, the tension, the struggle, the need. I couldn't help but feel the need to touch this friend, to ease the hurt, to make it better. But sometimes we are not the one that needs to FIX the issues.
Here is what I shared with my friend, what I have shared with my kids, what I try to live by:
1. Be in charge of your life. No one is going to look out for you like you should look out for yourself.
2. Protect yourself. Make sure your needs are met. Be a priority, invest in your self.
Have a plan, know what you want, know what you will do if it falls through, know what you will do
when this ride is over. Know what direction you will be headed in when you are ready to say "Next".
(Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying to be selfish, but just like on the air plain, you put the oxygen
mask on first. If you are not breathing you can't be there to help anyone else.)
3. Have fun! Enjoy the journey. Let each experience be a learning moment. (If it was a worthy learning
moment, Repeat! If not.... avoid in the future. But Don't Dwell on the negative, chalk it up to a learning
experience and Move On!)
As I listened, I picked up on the emotion, the tension, the struggle, the need. I couldn't help but feel the need to touch this friend, to ease the hurt, to make it better. But sometimes we are not the one that needs to FIX the issues.
Here is what I shared with my friend, what I have shared with my kids, what I try to live by:
1. Be in charge of your life. No one is going to look out for you like you should look out for yourself.
2. Protect yourself. Make sure your needs are met. Be a priority, invest in your self.
Have a plan, know what you want, know what you will do if it falls through, know what you will do
when this ride is over. Know what direction you will be headed in when you are ready to say "Next".
(Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying to be selfish, but just like on the air plain, you put the oxygen
mask on first. If you are not breathing you can't be there to help anyone else.)
3. Have fun! Enjoy the journey. Let each experience be a learning moment. (If it was a worthy learning
moment, Repeat! If not.... avoid in the future. But Don't Dwell on the negative, chalk it up to a learning
experience and Move On!)
Life 101....DRAMA
Today I listened to a lecture. The speaker was passionate about cognitive therapy; big words for self doubt, negative self talk, and letting others wear us down. I found myself wanting to shut the man up. So I simply turned YouTube off. But then as my day progressed and ugly unfolded, I realized that some of this was so true.
Each of us make choices that effect our lives and those around us daily. Some of these choices are life changing. Some are for the good. Some are good for one and perhaps not so good for the others. Some choices are just flat out not good. I think I can safely say that the aftermath of our choices and the choices of others is what we have titled 'DRAMA'. And although we would each like to say that we don't want drama in our lives, or that we try avoid drama, reality is....we all have it, either self imposed or imposed by others. I think some drama can be classified as a "Natural Disaster". Natural Disasters are not anyone's fault and normally effect everyone in its path. Some drama is caused by one persons need for change. And although this can cause growing pain for the others that will undoubtedly be effected, the benefit to the one or the part can be so worth the price. And some drama is completely selfish. This drama is senseless.
Although all these types of drama are so very different, we will each encounter them. We will each be scared by them.
Again, it is how we deal with that drama, what we do with it, how we face it, how we treat others as we evolve with it. Who we become because of it, this will inevitably be, the refiners fire. We can take that drama in all its forms; the natural disasters, the beneficial yet painful and the stupid, and we can let them eat us alive, or we can hide from them and not notice the elephant in the living room or we can learn and grow.
I, once again, think its all perspective and attitude.
You can be negative about anything. You can also find the happy where ever you are.
Drama free?......No I am not, but I like who I am as I deal with it.
Life 101 is over for today. Class dismissed.
Each of us make choices that effect our lives and those around us daily. Some of these choices are life changing. Some are for the good. Some are good for one and perhaps not so good for the others. Some choices are just flat out not good. I think I can safely say that the aftermath of our choices and the choices of others is what we have titled 'DRAMA'. And although we would each like to say that we don't want drama in our lives, or that we try avoid drama, reality is....we all have it, either self imposed or imposed by others. I think some drama can be classified as a "Natural Disaster". Natural Disasters are not anyone's fault and normally effect everyone in its path. Some drama is caused by one persons need for change. And although this can cause growing pain for the others that will undoubtedly be effected, the benefit to the one or the part can be so worth the price. And some drama is completely selfish. This drama is senseless.
Although all these types of drama are so very different, we will each encounter them. We will each be scared by them.
Again, it is how we deal with that drama, what we do with it, how we face it, how we treat others as we evolve with it. Who we become because of it, this will inevitably be, the refiners fire. We can take that drama in all its forms; the natural disasters, the beneficial yet painful and the stupid, and we can let them eat us alive, or we can hide from them and not notice the elephant in the living room or we can learn and grow.
I, once again, think its all perspective and attitude.
You can be negative about anything. You can also find the happy where ever you are.
Drama free?......No I am not, but I like who I am as I deal with it.
Life 101 is over for today. Class dismissed.
Christmas
Christmas Eve I received a letter from a friend, who touched my heart. Christmas morning my kids woke me up at 7:30am and by 8:30 two more were here in pajamas. On the front door, Santa's helper had left me the most thoughtful and kind gift; one that truly has humbled me, and I am so very very grateful for. The children had fun unwrapping their gifts. I was given Peace on Earth, by Amy! We had Christmas dinner at 10am.(Cookie was off to her dads at 11 and my son had work at noon) I wanted to make sure my kids had dinner together, so dinner in the morning worked for us. After the children were gone and the kitchen was clean, I headed to see my cousins. I toured the new home (beautiful and charming) and we exchanged treasures. There is something so nice about the feeling of belonging! We visited and caught up! I love them so!
I chatted with my Life Guru on my way home. He always helps me clear my head and see my path more evenly. I adore him! Another friend called to catch up, it had been seven or eight months since I had spoken with this sweet friend. And I was delighted to hear that life was good!
I received texts and emails all day from friends all over the country, I love that technology gives us that!
Christmas is one of the most anticipated days of the year, by far the most planned for. And although few of us can say that it ever ends up looking picture perfect, I know I am so grateful for each person that touched my day. I hope everyone had a Merry Christmas!
I chatted with my Life Guru on my way home. He always helps me clear my head and see my path more evenly. I adore him! Another friend called to catch up, it had been seven or eight months since I had spoken with this sweet friend. And I was delighted to hear that life was good!
I received texts and emails all day from friends all over the country, I love that technology gives us that!
Christmas is one of the most anticipated days of the year, by far the most planned for. And although few of us can say that it ever ends up looking picture perfect, I know I am so grateful for each person that touched my day. I hope everyone had a Merry Christmas!
Saturday, December 24, 2011
Christmas eve morning.....
My kids were home by 8:30, we had Family snuggle time on mom's bed, with the puppy! Then we had bagels and eggnog while my boy took Mario and Yoshi through Bowsers castle! It's 11am, I think I better get dressed and do some have to's. But I love being with my kids!!!! Yum!!
(I wish all my kids were here.... I would need a bigger spot for snuggle time!)
My kids were home by 8:30, we had Family snuggle time on mom's bed, with the puppy! Then we had bagels and eggnog while my boy took Mario and Yoshi through Bowsers castle! It's 11am, I think I better get dressed and do some have to's. But I love being with my kids!!!! Yum!!
(I wish all my kids were here.... I would need a bigger spot for snuggle time!)
The Eleventh Day Of Christmas
For the first time in longer than I can remember, all the Christmas treasures are wrapped before Christmas Eve and under the tree! My kids come home tomorrow morning. I have a gift to finish with Cookie, a gift to finish with my boy, and one to finish for my daughter to give. There are sweet rolls to prep and a turkey to roast! It's going to be a perfect Christmas Eve!
Wednesday, December 21, 2011
The Ninth Day Of Christmas
Finished all but one holiday sewing projects.
Final last minute gift list is written.
Brewed some peppermint/rosemary tea.
Washed all the laundry and cleaned the
house....all while listening to AC/DC.
They know how to make my house "Shake"
Final last minute gift list is written.
Brewed some peppermint/rosemary tea.
Washed all the laundry and cleaned the
house....all while listening to AC/DC.
They know how to make my house "Shake"
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
21 Suggestions for Success
By H. Jackson Brown
By H. Jackson Brown
1. Marry the right person. This one decision will determine 90% of your happiness or misery.
2. Work at something you enjoy and that's worthy of your time and talent.
3. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
4. Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.
5. Be forgiving of yourself and others.
6. Be generous.
7. Have a grateful heart.
8. Persistence, persistence, persistence.
9. Discipline yourself to save money on even the most modest salary.
10. Treat everyone you meet like you want to be treated.
11. Commit yourself to constant improvement.
12. Commit yourself to quality.
13. Understand that happiness is not based on possessions, power or prestige, but on relationships with people you love and respect.
14. Be loyal.
15. Be honest.
16. Be a self-starter.
17. Be decisive even if it means you'll sometimes be wrong.
18. Stop blaming others. Take responsibility for every area of your life.
19. Be bold and courageous. When you look back on your life, you'll regret the things you didn't do more than the ones you did.
20. Take good care of those you love.
21. Don't do anything that wouldn't make your mom proud.
(I would change this one to...) Don't do anything that wouldn't make you proud of yourself! I love all of these. But my favorite one is number 19! Carpe diem !!!!!
11.11.11 11:11
Texting with my boy:
Mom: 11.11.11 11:11
Boy: Did you make a wish?
M: Yes
B: What'd ya wish for?
M: ________!
M: What about you?
B: Gushy stuff :P
You wouldn't want to know :P
(not in a dirty way)
M: I know you love her!
B: I love my momma too :D
Mom: 11.11.11 11:11
Boy: Did you make a wish?
M: Yes
B: What'd ya wish for?
M: ________!
M: What about you?
B: Gushy stuff :P
You wouldn't want to know :P
(not in a dirty way)
M: I know you love her!
B: I love my momma too :D
Tuesday, December 20, 2011
Sunday, December 18, 2011
Trivia
Showing the Time
There are two major ways to show the time: "24 Hour Clock" or "AM/PM".
- With the 24 Hour Clock the time is shown as how many hours and minutes since midnight.
- With AM/PM (or "12 Hour Clock") the day is split into the 12 Hours running from Midnight to Noon (the AM hours) and the other 12 Hours running from Noon to Midnight (the PM hours).
AM | PM | |
Ante Meridiem* Latin for "before midday" | Post Meridiem* Latin for "after midday" | |
When: | Midnight to Noon | Noon to Midnight |
24 Hour Clock: | 0:00 to 11:59 | 12:00 to 23:59 |
Being Positive
According to research at the University of Kentucky, people who expect good things to happen have a stronger immune system and get sick less often. At the University of Michigan a study found that the more optimistic a person was the slower plaque builds up in their arteries, lowering their odds of having a stroke. Also, being positive has been shown to help you make better choices and decisions!
Dr. John Tauer PhD says its okay to "fake it till you make it", forcing a smile, saying Thank You, and reminding yourself "Yes I Can", are all acceptable ways of learning optimism as a new skill in your life!
WomansDay 12/11
Dr. John Tauer PhD says its okay to "fake it till you make it", forcing a smile, saying Thank You, and reminding yourself "Yes I Can", are all acceptable ways of learning optimism as a new skill in your life!
WomansDay 12/11
Inspiration for my New Years Resolutions!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i-kHleNYIDc&feature=youtu.be
GOO GOO DOLLS
Better Days
And you ask me what I want this year
And I try to make this kind and clear
Just a chance that maybe we'll find better days
Cuz I don't need boxes wrapped in strings
And desire and love and empty things
Just a chance that maybe we'll find better days
So take these words
And sing out loud
Cuz everyone is forgiven now
Cuz tonight's the night the world begins again
And it's someplace simple where we could live
And something only you can give
And thats faith and trust and peace while we're alive
And the one poor child that saved this world
And there's 10 million more who probably could
If we all just stopped and said a prayer for them
So take these words
And sing out loud
Cuz everyone is forgiven now
Cuz tonight's the night the world begins again
I wish everyone was loved tonight
And somehow stop this endless fight
Just a chance that maybe we'll find better days
So take these words
And sing out loud
Cuz everyone is forgiven now
Cuz tonight's the night the world begins again
Cuz tonight's the night the world begins again
GOO GOO DOLLS
Better Days
And you ask me what I want this year
And I try to make this kind and clear
Just a chance that maybe we'll find better days
Cuz I don't need boxes wrapped in strings
And desire and love and empty things
Just a chance that maybe we'll find better days
So take these words
And sing out loud
Cuz everyone is forgiven now
Cuz tonight's the night the world begins again
And it's someplace simple where we could live
And something only you can give
And thats faith and trust and peace while we're alive
And the one poor child that saved this world
And there's 10 million more who probably could
If we all just stopped and said a prayer for them
So take these words
And sing out loud
Cuz everyone is forgiven now
Cuz tonight's the night the world begins again
I wish everyone was loved tonight
And somehow stop this endless fight
Just a chance that maybe we'll find better days
So take these words
And sing out loud
Cuz everyone is forgiven now
Cuz tonight's the night the world begins again
Cuz tonight's the night the world begins again
Saturday, December 17, 2011
The Fourth Day Of Christmas
My plan was to take the kids and friends there to enjoy the lights and sample the holiday atmosphere. We were going to go at about sun set and do dinner there. I thought it would be a perfect way to start the week before Christmas! I was so excited!
Mark and Amy decided to go to a friends concert instead. And that's okay, they are teens after all. Meg had invited a friend, so that would still be fun.
But Meg's bad attitude earned "No Fun Outing". I was so sad. But it was a learning opportunity for Meg right?!
[Your actions show me what things you deserve]
I stayed busy, and Meg kept earning more chores. She also kept taking the phone calls from her dad. Yet she would not talk to me.
I JUST WANTED TO GO TO GLENDALE GLITTERS!!!
I went outside at one point to check on my darling daughter. She was storming around the back yard kicking the block fence. I asked her what was wrong. She said I just needed to leave her alone and let her live her life. . . . she is 12. Right?! So I sent her in to finish what she was supposed to be taking care of.
I talked to a friend, who agreed that my "Better attitude, chore list and home work schedule" was a good plan. My friend said I was not a failure as a parent. But I still felt like one.
Then I heard Meg yelling in the back yard. So as I stood on the patio watching her, she hung up with her dad and I asked what was happening. I was informed that its all about me and I need to let her live her life.
Yep she is still 12! I again explained that to her and that her job is to be the kid, be responsible for her grades, her chores and her attitude. I was informed that me getting the divorce ruined her life.
How is that? Nice home, nice school, nice things, she has two homes. Less anger, less tension, less yuck.
As I was finished with the back yard love fest, I heard someone at the front door. . . . . . .Oh, it gets better!
(DID I MENTION THAT I WANTED TO GO TO GLENDALE GLITTERS??)
At my door were, not one but two of Peoria's Finest!!! Yep, the police had been called.
By who? Oh I'll give you ONE guess! I welcomed them into my home. They asked if everyone was okay. I said yes. I asked why they had been called. They said that the DAD reported that our daughter said that if she stayed here someone would be hurt. Okay, up to this point I'm still thinking home work, chores and attitude. One officer spoke to Meg, one spoke to her dad. They took a look around the house. (tidy, clean, nice, well mannered kids) It didn't look like there was an issue. I answered the questions, then I asked a few. Why were they here? There is no abuse, I may have raised my voice in my back yard but that was seconds before they got there. I am sure they heard all of that. Why? The issues...Home Work, Chores and Attitude. Since when are the police called for that?
Okay, she is twelve. And she knows just how to manipulate both parents when she wants something her way. Home work, chores and an improved attitude are not on her preferred things to do. But she lets her dad know how mean I am and how I am ruining her life. She then told him that if she stayed here she would kill herself or me. Well, there you go. I guess when you don't get what you want you add more drama right?!
I don't know what they spoke to the dad about, but I know that everything they said to Meg was just what I had said earlier. WORD FOR WORD! I told them the issues, the failing grades, the lack of family support, the disrespectful attitude. I told them what my game plan is, more hands on homework dictatorship, more mandatory chore time, rewards and consequent for behavior. We will be meeting with the intervention specialist and the principle this week, and maybe all the teachers, because my homework help is not getting us far enough.
The police man also suggested that next time this happens, I need to let them take her to Juvenal Detention.
They will keep her in lock down for 23 hours. It may help make a impression on her he said.
I sat in my chair. I just looked at my daughter. She is 12. If I lose her now she wont have a shot at later. I know I have to do ALL the hard nose mom stuff, so she will see her potential, so she wont fall through the cracks. I will do all that, because I love her. But I am so tired of being kicked in the head.
(GLENDALE GLITTERS so sounded like a much better way to spend the evening.)
Friday, December 16, 2011
Things I Have Learned
I have learned that people are put into our lives to help us learn. Some will be here for a short time. Some may be here a lifetime. Some may be here to teach you the BIG and WOW, some may be here to teach you the Silent and Life Changing. Some lessons are fun and give goosebumps, some melt your heart like butter, and some are painful, even long after. I think, for me at least, welcoming each teacher, and being open to the life lesson they are here to teach helps me become a better me!
I am grateful to so many teachers....
David and Kerry, Tammy, Keith, Carl and Debra, Ron, Don and Kristan, Billy and Marge, Christy, Jose, Brian, Suzi, Don, Alison, Bill, Sheri, David, Ron, Amy and Justin, Diana, Laura, Neil, Jessette, My Guru, Warren, Tracy and Lynn, Dale, Tony and Erin, Kathy, Mike, Steve and Debbie, Fred and Marleen,
I am grateful to so many teachers....
David and Kerry, Tammy, Keith, Carl and Debra, Ron, Don and Kristan, Billy and Marge, Christy, Jose, Brian, Suzi, Don, Alison, Bill, Sheri, David, Ron, Amy and Justin, Diana, Laura, Neil, Jessette, My Guru, Warren, Tracy and Lynn, Dale, Tony and Erin, Kathy, Mike, Steve and Debbie, Fred and Marleen,
Thursday, December 15, 2011
Wear Sunscreen
Please note: the following speech has spread all over the Internet as "Kurt Vonnegut's commencement address at MIT". The truth is that Vonnegut had never delivered this address. How did this happen? If you are interested,
just click and read my article about this Vonnegut story.
"Ladies and gentlemen of the class of '97:
Wear sunscreen.
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it. The long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists, whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience. I will dispense this advice now.
Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth. Oh, never mind. You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they've faded. But trust me, in 20 years, you'll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked. You are not as fat as you imagine.
Don't worry about the future. Or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind, the kind that blindside you at 4 pm on some idle Tuesday.
Do one thing every day that scares you.
Sing.
Don't be reckless with other people's hearts. Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours.
Floss.
Don't waste your time on jealousy. Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind. The race is long and, in the end, it's only with yourself.
Remember compliments you receive. Forget the insults. If you succeed in doing this, tell me how.
Keep your old love letters. Throw away your old bank statements.
Stretch.
Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don't.
Get plenty of calcium. Be kind to your knees. You'll miss them when they're gone.
Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll have children, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll divorce at 40, maybe you'll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary. Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much, or berate yourself either. Your choices are half chance. So are everybody else's.
Enjoy your body. Use it every way you can. Don't be afraid of it or of what other people think of it. It's the greatest instrument you'll ever own.
Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your living room.
Read the directions, even if you don't follow them.
Do not read beauty magazines. They will only make you feel ugly.
Get to know your parents. You never know when they'll be gone for good. Be nice to your siblings. They're your best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.
Understand that friends come and go, but with a precious few you should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle, because the older you get, the more you need the people who knew you when you were young.
Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard. Live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft. Travel.
Accept certain inalienable truths: Prices will rise. Politicians will philander. You, too, will get old. And when you do, you'll fantasize that when you were young, prices were reasonable, politicians were noble, and children respected their elders.
Respect your elders.
Don't expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund. Maybe you'll have a wealthy spouse. But you never know when either one might run out.
Don't mess too much with your hair or by the time you're 40 it will look 85.
Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia. Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it's worth.
But trust me on the sunscreen."
Author: Mary Schmich (USA)
First published: July 1, 1997
Copyright: Herald Tribune
The above speech has spread all over the Internet as "Kurt Vonnegut's commencement address at MIT". The truth is that Vonnegut had never delivered this address. How did this happen? If you are interested, just click and read my article about this Vonnegut story.
just click and read my article about this Vonnegut story.
"Ladies and gentlemen of the class of '97:
Wear sunscreen.
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it. The long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists, whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience. I will dispense this advice now.
Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth. Oh, never mind. You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they've faded. But trust me, in 20 years, you'll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked. You are not as fat as you imagine.
Don't worry about the future. Or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind, the kind that blindside you at 4 pm on some idle Tuesday.
Do one thing every day that scares you.
Sing.
Don't be reckless with other people's hearts. Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours.
Floss.
Don't waste your time on jealousy. Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind. The race is long and, in the end, it's only with yourself.
Remember compliments you receive. Forget the insults. If you succeed in doing this, tell me how.
Keep your old love letters. Throw away your old bank statements.
Stretch.
Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don't.
Get plenty of calcium. Be kind to your knees. You'll miss them when they're gone.
Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll have children, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll divorce at 40, maybe you'll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary. Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much, or berate yourself either. Your choices are half chance. So are everybody else's.
Enjoy your body. Use it every way you can. Don't be afraid of it or of what other people think of it. It's the greatest instrument you'll ever own.
Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your living room.
Read the directions, even if you don't follow them.
Do not read beauty magazines. They will only make you feel ugly.
Get to know your parents. You never know when they'll be gone for good. Be nice to your siblings. They're your best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.
Understand that friends come and go, but with a precious few you should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle, because the older you get, the more you need the people who knew you when you were young.
Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard. Live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft. Travel.
Accept certain inalienable truths: Prices will rise. Politicians will philander. You, too, will get old. And when you do, you'll fantasize that when you were young, prices were reasonable, politicians were noble, and children respected their elders.
Respect your elders.
Don't expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund. Maybe you'll have a wealthy spouse. But you never know when either one might run out.
Don't mess too much with your hair or by the time you're 40 it will look 85.
Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia. Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it's worth.
But trust me on the sunscreen."
Author: Mary Schmich (USA)
First published: July 1, 1997
Copyright: Herald Tribune
The above speech has spread all over the Internet as "Kurt Vonnegut's commencement address at MIT". The truth is that Vonnegut had never delivered this address. How did this happen? If you are interested, just click and read my article about this Vonnegut story.
Wednesday, December 14, 2011
The Third Day Of Christmas
It is the small and simple things that make life wonderful. Making breakfast for my kids, getting them off to school. Sharing quality time with those I care about. Sharing ideas and passions. Weather that feels like winter!! Finishing the sewing on my Christmas quilt.
Fuzzy socks!
Fuzzy socks!
Please tell me what there is to complain about!?
I love these words to a popular song. They remind me that I need to see the good! There is always good and bad around us. We can dwell on the bad or we can let it go.
If you can change the issue, do so. If you can not, except it and move on.
Life should be enjoyed. We all have issues and drama.
Who we are is determined by how we deal with it.
Letting go of the negative will help us get through and move beyond.
No need to complain.
I love these words to a popular song. They remind me that I need to see the good! There is always good and bad around us. We can dwell on the bad or we can let it go.
If you can change the issue, do so. If you can not, except it and move on.
Life should be enjoyed. We all have issues and drama.
Who we are is determined by how we deal with it.
Letting go of the negative will help us get through and move beyond.
No need to complain.
Thought Of The Day
Empowerment
For me... I love the feeling of self control, self respect, self confidence. Feeling sure of myself, enough to step outside the box or boundaries or limits that I have set in the past. Knowing myself well enough to take that next step in life with total trust in self.
For me... I love the feeling of self control, self respect, self confidence. Feeling sure of myself, enough to step outside the box or boundaries or limits that I have set in the past. Knowing myself well enough to take that next step in life with total trust in self.
Tuesday, December 13, 2011
Pleasantly Surprised
This afternoon, I went to my daughters school. She was to meet with a teacher, to make up some missed work. When I arrived, her dad was there with her. I was surprised and delighted that he had taken the time to be part of her world, to help her see that school and her grades are a priority. Perhaps we are on the same kid page! I think that would be so great for this child!
The Second Day Of Christmas
I am so grateful for my daughter who is there to rescue me in my hour of need. I am humbled by her willing, loving devotion. She is such a strength and a delight to me. I truly love the person she is. And I, again am touched, no, overwhelmed by her willingness to care for her siblings and her mom.
Eek Baby Bean!
Eek Baby Bean!
Monday, December 12, 2011
The First Day Of Christmas
On the first day of Christmas......
I made New Christmas stockings for my daughter and her honey, and one for Amy too.
I worked on my Christmas quilt and made cookies for the work pot luck.
I love Christmas!!!
I made New Christmas stockings for my daughter and her honey, and one for Amy too.
I worked on my Christmas quilt and made cookies for the work pot luck.
I love Christmas!!!
Sunday, December 11, 2011
Home Work Done Right
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| I don't remember ever doing homework with my high school sweetheart! I may have said I was, but these kids really do their homework!!! |
Two Weeks Dinner Menu
(not in order)
1. Mezze Penne with fresh Marinara
2. Hot Open Face Turkey Sandwiches with Gravy
3. Deviled Eggs with Red Skin Potato Salad
4. Beef Stew w/Red Wine Sauce
5. Pipette Pasta with Homemade Alfredo
6. Gourmet Grilled Cheese on Rye
7. Chicken Pot Pie (homemade chicken stew)
8. Pizza Snacks (kids choice)
9. Chicken Broccoli Pockets
10. Roasted Ham and Pototoes
11. Warm Chicken and Fiori Pasta Salad
1. Mezze Penne with fresh Marinara
2. Hot Open Face Turkey Sandwiches with Gravy
3. Deviled Eggs with Red Skin Potato Salad
4. Beef Stew w/Red Wine Sauce
5. Pipette Pasta with Homemade Alfredo
6. Gourmet Grilled Cheese on Rye
7. Chicken Pot Pie (homemade chicken stew)
8. Pizza Snacks (kids choice)
9. Chicken Broccoli Pockets
10. Roasted Ham and Pototoes
11. Warm Chicken and Fiori Pasta Salad
He Loves Her!
We were just out to enjoy the day! We went to Biltmore Fashion Park, Trader Joe's, World Market, AJ's and the fabric store. We were looking for this and that. Found this but not that.
We always like to do lunch alfresco. We shop for decedent sliced meat, cheese, and fruit. Yesterdays lunch consisted of Pastrami, Gouda, mixed berries and French Fries! Just fun!!! We chatted with the most charming produce man at the AJ's on 7th.
He was CHARMING!
I love it when I have just one of my children all by them self. I get to give them all my attention, listen to all their life happenings, thoughts and events. I enjoy each of my babies so much. I wonder if it would be weird to have an afternoon with my son in laws. I would love that just as much! I am thinking about scheduling some time with Amy too....I just love her!!!
My daughter shared school info, work info, in law info. She told me the funniest story about a jewelry party... that I will blog later. So so funny! She elaborated on the game in laws love, and how she is just not that into playing it. I loved listening to how their room mate fits into their world. I love to hear how they parent their puppy!
I think my favorite part of the outing was listening to her tell me about Cole. I couldn't love him more if he was my own son. She told me how he helps with the housework (how the clean laundry lives in the dryer!)
I loved the story of when her world was slipping and she was falling apart, he took hold of her word and he made it stop, making her the only important thing there. He loves her. There is nothing more glorious to a mother's heart than to know that her daughter is truly and completely loved!
She also told me how when she woke up early that morning, and couldn't get back to sleep, Cole took her out to breakfast (charming, RIGHT!). But then he eat all her hash browns... NOT a good thing. That is reasoning for war .... he would have to make that up to her.
This morning I got these two pictures, along with a text that said "All is forgiven"
My gratitude for this young man who loves my daughter is crazy amazing! It is the small things that make our worlds right! And he gets it! I am grateful to have spent time with my baby girl, and also for the man that finds a heart shaped potato to make her homemade hash browns!!
CRAZY AMAZING!!!
Saturday, December 10, 2011
Love Lessons!
Why is it that the most important lessons in life are not taught?
I think we all need "Relationship Communication 101" and "Spice Up Your Relationship" classes!
I believe that a relationship needs to stay fun in order to last. If you get into a routine it's hard to get out of that rut. Been there, done that! I also know that even those of us that are really in love with our someone special, don't share all the little things that we would like them to know. I think everyone who really wants to make a relationship work needs to read "The Five Love Languages" learn what you need, share that information. Ask for what you need. Ask your partner what they need to feel loved. Filling your someone specials love bucket should be a full time recreation! If every partner took on thier loved ones needs, as favorite past time.... Well, what a wonderful world it would be!
Let me tell you about a couple of young men I know! They are both delightful! Both are very family oriented (close to thier siblings and big time Momma's Boys)and have good social circles. They are both buff and good looking.
(I won't give names, because, they are truly dear to me and I don't want to cross any lines)
The first young man is goal oriented, working on his degree, career and personal goals. He is a party boy, loves to go out, has a huge circle of friends! He is charming and sencer. And by far the best smelling man I know!
This young man gets...'Adding Spice to Life!' He impressed me the other morning (not the first time) when he shared this delightful note with me at work...
"I gave her my phone number in roman numerals!"
0kay... HOW CREATIVE! HOW CHARMING! WAHOO!!!
I hope this girl figures it out and makes a stealth move.
This young man has a Little Black FaceBook with dozens and dozens of girls.
Selecting one means she is special, creatively pursuing her means his head is in the game!!!
The second young man is just learning what life has to offer. He has a desire to explore life, sample the options. He is a compassionate good friend. He has the best sence of humor I have ever seen and he is very musically gifted.
He has the perfect girlfriend! Not only is she perfect for him, but his family loves her too! (And she picked him!!) He knows the treasure he has in her. He wants to ensure they never fall into a rut, that they always stay fun and new. So he is implementing some things into their relationship. He is calendaring biweekly activities, creative interactive date ideas (like picnics, sight seeing, local tours) to ensure that they will retain that spark, that Fun!
He gets it!!!
There you go... Chivilry and Romance are still very much a part of the game!!!
I think we all need "Relationship Communication 101" and "Spice Up Your Relationship" classes!
I believe that a relationship needs to stay fun in order to last. If you get into a routine it's hard to get out of that rut. Been there, done that! I also know that even those of us that are really in love with our someone special, don't share all the little things that we would like them to know. I think everyone who really wants to make a relationship work needs to read "The Five Love Languages" learn what you need, share that information. Ask for what you need. Ask your partner what they need to feel loved. Filling your someone specials love bucket should be a full time recreation! If every partner took on thier loved ones needs, as favorite past time.... Well, what a wonderful world it would be!
Let me tell you about a couple of young men I know! They are both delightful! Both are very family oriented (close to thier siblings and big time Momma's Boys)and have good social circles. They are both buff and good looking.
(I won't give names, because, they are truly dear to me and I don't want to cross any lines)
The first young man is goal oriented, working on his degree, career and personal goals. He is a party boy, loves to go out, has a huge circle of friends! He is charming and sencer. And by far the best smelling man I know!
This young man gets...'Adding Spice to Life!' He impressed me the other morning (not the first time) when he shared this delightful note with me at work...
"I gave her my phone number in roman numerals!"
0kay... HOW CREATIVE! HOW CHARMING! WAHOO!!!
I hope this girl figures it out and makes a stealth move.
This young man has a Little Black FaceBook with dozens and dozens of girls.
Selecting one means she is special, creatively pursuing her means his head is in the game!!!
The second young man is just learning what life has to offer. He has a desire to explore life, sample the options. He is a compassionate good friend. He has the best sence of humor I have ever seen and he is very musically gifted.
He has the perfect girlfriend! Not only is she perfect for him, but his family loves her too! (And she picked him!!) He knows the treasure he has in her. He wants to ensure they never fall into a rut, that they always stay fun and new. So he is implementing some things into their relationship. He is calendaring biweekly activities, creative interactive date ideas (like picnics, sight seeing, local tours) to ensure that they will retain that spark, that Fun!
He gets it!!!
There you go... Chivilry and Romance are still very much a part of the game!!!
Friday, December 9, 2011
Perspective On The Path
I think, our life journey is 95% perspective.
How we fit in it as it evolves around us and with us.
I use to say that the challenges of parenting never get easier, they just become different.
I now see that's just how all of life is.
It's how we take on each day and personally evolve that will make or break who we end up being.
If you don't learn to find your happy in the day to day, you will never like you.
And you are stuck in the relationship with yourself forever. If you can't learn to like you...
How can you like others? Have a successful relationship? Progress? How can other people learn to like you?
Find your happy! Learn to truly like yourself! And make "Life 101" the class you excell at!!!
How we fit in it as it evolves around us and with us.
I use to say that the challenges of parenting never get easier, they just become different.
I now see that's just how all of life is.
It's how we take on each day and personally evolve that will make or break who we end up being.
If you don't learn to find your happy in the day to day, you will never like you.
And you are stuck in the relationship with yourself forever. If you can't learn to like you...
How can you like others? Have a successful relationship? Progress? How can other people learn to like you?
Find your happy! Learn to truly like yourself! And make "Life 101" the class you excell at!!!
The Art Of Pursuit
I read an article that had been posted on Craig's List,
by a woman who was giving advise to men,
on what woman want.
And although the article is not something I would share here...
WAHOO....it was nearly right on the money!!!
But may I add..... Gentlemen,
If she is what you want and you know she is into you. . .
Don't take the easy way out.
Show her that you know how to pursue her,
that you know what she is all about.
Let her see that you know her value, her worth.
Every woman likes to be treated like a lady.
And there isn't a lady out there
that wouldn't like to be the
center of the romance universe.
center of the romance universe.
Chivalry is not dead, nor is Romance.
I can tell you that there would be
A LOT more happy men out there
A LOT more happy men out there
if they would step up to the opportunity
to be the leading man!
to be the leading man!
If she has to be the one
constantly encouraging the relationship,
constantly encouraging the relationship,
it's not worth having and she will move on.
She needs to feel adored, cherished,
craved and worshiped.
craved and worshiped.
Fill her needs and she will always take care of yours.
But treat her as though she is common,
routine and not worth your time
....you are on your own!
....you are on your own!
If you want her to be that Goddess
....Treat her as one!
....Treat her as one!
She will be more than happy to Bless Your Life!!!
Just saying.
Thursday, December 8, 2011
Happy Hanukkah
The Maccabeats - Miracle - Matisyahu - Hanukkah
ADAM SANDLER - CHANUKAH (HANUKKAH) SONG [PART 1]
MIM
Musical Instruments Museum
The Most Extraordinary Museum You'll Ever Hear
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| I had the opportunity to go to MIM this week. It was really amazing! My favorite parts, were the guitar sections For my Son's love for it! And the baby grand piano. In pieces!!! |
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| The architecture is just as awe inspiring as the exhibits themselves! I had a wonderful time!! |
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| Our tour took us to Africa, Asia, SouthAmerica, the Islands, Australia....and parts of the US exhibit. It was fascinating. As you walk through, you wear head phones, and as you view each area they link up to the screen and you get to hear the instruments being played in their native land. |
Wednesday, December 7, 2011
What I had intended to say......
I try not to open my mouth and insert my foot.
However, I think I may be blessed
with a remarkable talent for just this!
I sure do it often enough.
I am pretty sure that I have said something,
that I wish I had not.
Perhaps I said too much
or didn't say what I should have.
I hope I didn't just shoot myself,
when all I was trying to say was honestly how I feel.
However, I think I may be blessed
with a remarkable talent for just this!
I sure do it often enough.
I am pretty sure that I have said something,
that I wish I had not.
Perhaps I said too much
or didn't say what I should have.
I hope I didn't just shoot myself,
when all I was trying to say was honestly how I feel.
Tuesday, December 6, 2011
Early to bed....
There has to be something said for going to bed early!
I am not usually one to do that, there is just too much on my proverbial plait.
I often times find myself still awake at very late hours still doing have to's or prepping for tomorrows have to's.
Time was when I got 'eight hours' every night! Gosh what a luxury! Oh to be young again!
I must say that I am grateful for the fact that the sun sets so early, although I know it is not late my inner clock starts hinting 'bedtime' as the sun sinks! So last night I listened!
Cookie had gone to bed early too, you could see on her little face that the day had won, she was whiped out, so I am grateful for her example. I was in bed by 7:30, I returned my last text message by eight. I remember my son saying goodnight at some point, and removing my laptop from my bed, I never even turned it on. I don't even think I moved...until Cheree woke me at two asking to be let out to 'take a moonlit walk'!
From 8o'clock until 11pm I received 9 additional texts. That I slept right through, even though my beloved iPhone is literally on my pillow!
I have an hour left before my alarm goes off, maybe I can get a nap in! Just had to share!!
I am not usually one to do that, there is just too much on my proverbial plait.
I often times find myself still awake at very late hours still doing have to's or prepping for tomorrows have to's.
Time was when I got 'eight hours' every night! Gosh what a luxury! Oh to be young again!
I must say that I am grateful for the fact that the sun sets so early, although I know it is not late my inner clock starts hinting 'bedtime' as the sun sinks! So last night I listened!
Cookie had gone to bed early too, you could see on her little face that the day had won, she was whiped out, so I am grateful for her example. I was in bed by 7:30, I returned my last text message by eight. I remember my son saying goodnight at some point, and removing my laptop from my bed, I never even turned it on. I don't even think I moved...until Cheree woke me at two asking to be let out to 'take a moonlit walk'!
From 8o'clock until 11pm I received 9 additional texts. That I slept right through, even though my beloved iPhone is literally on my pillow!
I have an hour left before my alarm goes off, maybe I can get a nap in! Just had to share!!
Sunday, December 4, 2011
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