Many of
us long for a life of happiness, balance and peace, but we don’t
believe we can have it. But the great paradox is that our lack of
faith in love and miracles is what blocks us from receiving love and
miracles. Many of us have more faith in fear than we do in love and
miracles. If we want to live a miraculous life, we must raise the
volume on the loving voice within us and turn down the volume on our
fear.
The
first step in choosing love over fear is to understand your fear. As
a student of A
Course in Miracles I
learned to become the witness to my fear-based thoughts. Each time I
felt fear set in, I’d take a deep breath, step outside of my
thoughts and actions, and witness my behavior. By witnessing my fears
I was able to see how delusional they actually were. For instance,
early in my career I ran a public relations business. With every new
client came a new opportunity to negotiate my monthly retainer. I
hated negotiating. It made me feel anxious and jittery, and I’d
lose my sense of calm. When I acknowledged my fears around
negotiating for more money, I realized it was related to a belief I’d
picked up that women shouldn’t ask for more. This was an outside
projection the world had created, and I’d chosen to believe it. But
when I got honest about my fear, I was able to see how this “lack”
mentality had become a fear-based pattern in my mind.
Once
you’ve gained clarity about your fears, the next step is
willingness. ACourse
in Miracles says
that the slightest willingness is all you need to receive the
guidance to change. When we become open to let go of our fear, we
open our heart, mind and energy to be guided to a new perspective.
Willingness raises your consciousness of new possibilities and
ignites what I call your ~ing (your
inner guide). Your ~ing is
the voice of love, your inspiration and your intuition. All you need
is a little willingness to get your~ing on
and receive guidance to change.
This
guidance will come in different forms: intuition, inspiration, and
sometimes even through synchronicities. Often we can experience
intuition as a strong inner knowing that offers us guidance of some
form. Inspiration can be experienced as a feeling of flow and
excitement that comes through in moments when our thoughts and
actions are aligned with love. Then there are moments of
synchronicity, which are really cool—like when you’re thinking
about your mother and she calls or when you keep hearing about a new
book and the next day it falls off the shelf in the store.
In
my new book, May
Cause Miracles,
I emphasize three other key components to living a miraculous life:
gratitude, forgiveness and love. The act of forgiveness is to the
miracle worker as lettuce is to the raw foodie.
Forgiveness
guides us to cleanse ourselves of the old, junky fear and shines
light on the darkness of our worries, doubts and suspicions. Rather
than continuing to play the role of victim, we can forgive and be set
free. With each choice to forgive, we shift our perception from fear
to love.
Forgiveness
is like air: we need it to survive.
Then
comes gratitude. An emphasis on gratitude is the only attitude for
the miracle worker. Living a grateful life creates more abundance,
acceptance and appreciation. In order to transform your fears back to
love, you must embrace a way of being that puts gratitude first.
Each
new day, intend to be grateful.
Finally,
there is love—the most crucial ingredient. A
Course in Miracles teaches
that the only thing missing in any situation is love, and where there
is fear there is no love. Therefore, living with an open heart and
embracing love as our true purpose is essential to living a
miraculous life.
When
you choose to perceive love over fear, life begins to flow.
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