Tuesday, October 31, 2023
Saturday, October 28, 2023
Friday, October 27, 2023
Wednesday, October 25, 2023
ELEVEN
Here are some suggestions to boost your level of self-esteem wherever it's at right now:
1. Stop hanging out with people out of loyalty instead of intention.
Are you hanging out with people because they'd be offended if you didn't? That's one of the worst reasons to maintain a friendship.
Your friends should inspire and uplift you. And you should be excited to share with them your life goals - because they encourage you every step of the way.
2. Start employing your secret talents.
Gifts you stop using (writing, teaching, designing, photography the list goes on…) will make you feel miserable over time.
Your skills exist to be used and to bring joy to everyone who encounters them! What can you pick back up - just for you?
3. Put yourself first.
Gabor Mate said, “If a refusal saddles you with guilt, while consent leaves resentment in its wake, opt for the guilt. Resentment is soul suicide.”
If you have to disappoint yourself or someone else, let it be someone else.
4. Quit trying to keep up with the "cool crowd."
It’s always changing anyway.
5. Stop procrastinating.
Procrastination is directly related to our feelings of self-worth.
Why use delay tactics on something that will, in fact, bring you good? Get busy. What are you waiting for, exactly? It's never the "right time."
6. Give yourself permission to walk away.
Who or what do you need to leave? The unknown is scary, yes—but nothing changes if nothing changes.
7. Ask for more.
People who ask, get. It's that simple. But if you don't feel deserving, you're probably not asking enough. What can you test? Asking for a favor from a friend? Asking for an overdue raise? Asking for help at work? There's strength (and major wins!) in asking.
8. Don't blame-shift.
Who are you blaming, when you should really be accountable to yourself? Accountability brings you places, blame doesn't.
9. Stop believing you're not ready.
Hey, guess what? You're dying. Yep. Every day you go to bed, it's one less of your total days here on Earth. You were born for this moment in time. And it’s all temporary anyway. Go for yours!
10. Avoid criticizing others.
It doesn't really feel good, does it? That's because we do it when we're feeling bad about ourselves. I’ve never regretted biting my tongue instead of saying something that wasn’t nice.
11. Remember self-compassion.
Self-compassion actually matters more than self-esteem. It's about being kind and gentle with yourself no matter what. And that means being patient, loving, and accepting of yourself… even if you know there’s more work you’d like to do on yourself.
Try approving of yourself a bit more.
Remember what you like about yourself: "I'm good at things! I do a badass tripod headstand! I'm not perfect in my marriage, but I'm loving and committed. I’m a loyal friend."
Susie Moore
FAULT VS RESPONSIBILITY
No matter who is at fault;
It is your responsibility for
Your Heart
Your Life
Your Happiness
W.S.
It is your responsibility for
Your Heart
Your Life
Your Happiness
W.S.
Tuesday, October 24, 2023
Monday, October 23, 2023
HOLDING HANDS
We were sitting at the table, where our moms were playing cards. Our brothers were there too. I was ten or 11 and David’s family had been our friends for years. He was a year older than me, the same age as my brother. I was the only girl out of the entire bunch. David was nice and included me more than my brother did, he also didn’t treat me like the pesky little sister. Actually all the boys in David’s family treated me pretty nice. David was a red head, who knows, maybe he started my weakness for redheads. But that day as we sat there blowing Bubble Yum bubbles, watching our moms play cards, David silently reached over and held my hand, right under the table. I remember looking at him, sure he had lost his mind, after all, all the other boys would have teased him if they had seen. He didn’t look at me, he kept talking to the other kids. I didn’t know he even liked me. But there we were, holding hands. For what seemed to be hours, David held my hand.
His family moved shortly after that, but the memory of the first time a boy held my hand is still wonderful!
Sunday, October 22, 2023
1st PLAY LIST
This one album impacted my life so completely. As I listen to the album tonight, earbuds in, volume all the way up, I’m in my own little bubble. And back rush all the memories and emotions from decades ago.
I was 18 when I was given the cassette tape. I had never heard of the group before. And to my delight I loved it. I can honestly say that I wore out that cassette tape. I have the cd, although I think it may be the one currently stuck in the cd player in my little white ford. But Spotify has me all taken care of tonight.
All those years ago my world was changing so fast and this album slid me into the drivers seat of my new world. It was my personal therapy. As my babies came, life stood still and I leaned on the familiarity and constant of my personal playlist.
My children, as they grew, knew that if mom put the album on during the weekend, there was serious housework to be done. And although they all scattered at the first beats, I know they loved it too.
As my world evolved and dissolved and reconfigured, I still turned to the album as a balm of sorts. Relaxing, empowering, youthful… a glimpse of what I had held in my hands at the brink of adulthood, and a tool to help propel as my world changed. Still the same every step of the path.
So tonight, eyes closed and music surrounding me, I feel, once again, that this is good.
Saturday, October 21, 2023
WORK FAMILY
Tuesday after work, some of my co-workers, current and past, got together for dinner at the restaurant across from our office. It is interesting to spend time with your work family outside the office. You learn more about them than you thought you knew.
Interesting that this groups of people share 40 plus hours a week together and yet we have so much to still learn about one another.
Dinner was fun, and I learned, once again, that I a blessed with a great work family.
Friday, October 20, 2023
Thursday, October 19, 2023
THE ARCHER
Sagittarius is a truth-teller and adventurer. Her sign is the Archer, which means they always have something worthwhile in their sights. She is usually found traveling the globe or feeding their heads with all the books. The broader the horizon, the happier she is. She is energetic, active and curious. She is intelligent, spontaneous and passionate. She is an optimist who has the ability to share her positive enthusiasm with everyone around her.
If you are lucky enough to have Sagittarius in your life, keep her close. She will indeed keep you young and happy.
Wednesday, October 18, 2023
Tuesday, October 17, 2023
SAN FRAN FOG
The first time
I saw fog was in
San Francisco,
I was 14 and
I fell in love
with the magic!
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